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Don't lose hope on marriage

  Divorce is kind of a hard topic to talk about. However, the truth is, based on the data, 70% of the married couples will feel regret about divorced with their spouses. When they got married, it seems that their promises could go forever. But, with time goes by, the original passion and love faded away, the deficiencies of their personalities began showing up, the dissatisfaction accumulated day by day, finally, it breaks out at some point, the trigger might be just small little thing that we wouldn’t even care about. The reason caused divorce could be plenty, it might be out of the domestic violence, abuse, cheating on their spouses, or it could also because of the financial burden, and the child’s education. In my opinion, a lot of divorces could be avoided or prevented, because they did that out of passion, the passion of anger. When they calm down and started realizing that they still love each other they will regret about their rash actions, and it is really hard to fix once ...
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Let kids to make contribution and put efforts to get the things they want

  How to become a good parent is never easy, you need to know how to give your kids enough attention and love, on the other hand you can’t spoil them. It is hard to keep these two balanced. As parents, knowing how to let kids to make contributions are essential, thus they will know how to be thankful and grateful for the things they have and also learn they need to make efforts to get whatever they want. When I was a kid, I had a strong craving for chocolate cookies (I do even now) every time when me and my mom go to the supermarket, I went to the cookie shelf and waited my mom come to me, then I will ask her to buy the cookies I want. At the beginning she did buy them to me, however, I ate them very quickly and those were not enough for me, also I knew that she would buy them for me again, so I go to the supermarket with her basically every time because I assume that she will buy it for me again as long as I asked. However, one day when I went with her and asked for cookies again,...
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My opinion about stay home moms.

  The thing I would like to talk about in this blog might be a little bit controversial, but it is also very interesting. No one can deny a mom’s role in this world, not just in their own families, but also to the society as well. From the human civilization started, mom always plays a role in keeping the harmony in the family, taking care of the kids while their husbands are working outside, cleaning the house, etc. In the modern society, it seems that mom’s responsibility added one more, which is going out to work and add another income for the whole family. The debate about if a woman should be a stay home mom when she gets married and has kids always exists, and it seems like both sides can’t convince each other. In LDS culture, people tend to let the women being stay home moms and the men go to work and take the financial responsibility of the whole family because it is important to have mom’s accompany during the whole period of a child’s growth. However, it does not mean it ...
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Why commmunicate, especially effective communicate matters?

  As human beings, we all need communication, it could be verbal and non-verbal (body language). The communication is so important to us because it is not just a media that we know each other in the world, but also a very important way to bond the relationship with people. The communication could be interpreted into different ways based on the context and the emotion you provided that time. Also it is also linked to the personality. Some people who are extrovert tend to be more talkative and the ones who are introvert are less likely to talk a lot, especially in front of the public or the people they don’t know. Communication is crucial between married couple, between friends, even to the strangers. I think we can tell if a person’s emotion based on the information he/she sent us, for instance, we know that people must be happy when we see them laughing or smiling. Or we can tell that person is sad if we see him/her cry. Normally we tend to show our happy emotions to the others and...
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Always remeber that you are needed and loved by this world.

  We live in a life full of uncertainties, stress and distress, and those things make us feel anxious and angry, I want to say that we do get suffered by the uncertainties and stress, however, it was exactly those things make us learn and grow, most importantly, it teaches us how to cherish the life and the people around us. I am suffered by a lot of things, I had a not that happy childhood, I have experienced my parent’s divorce since I was young, and I was living in the life that full of the hatred that my mom had towards my biological father. When I came to United States, I also faced a lot of challenges such as taking the college entrance exams so I could go to the university, I studied very hard, and I didn’t get the very good score as I supposed to have, so I decided to take on more time. That time the anxiety and stress were very huge and I can’t even tell this to my parents in New York because I don’t want them to worry about me. I just took everything on my own, I talked w...
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Don't skip the topic about sex

  Some people will feel weird and awkward to talk about sex because they think it should be the only the topic between the couples or the person you have a very close relationship with. I remembered that when I was a little kid, 5 th or 6 th grade, around 12 or 13 years old, my parents never had that conversation with me until I had my first period. However, they didn’t tell me too much details about the sex thing, they just told me that women could conceive the babies once they have their first period. Unfortunately, due to the influence of the traditional culture, the school didn’t put this information in our textbook when I was in the middle school, of course now the situation has been changed. The only time we talked about the human body and the private parts was in the textbook of the biology class, which was very awkward to see those pictures in the textbook even though the teacher told us that was normal, and I saw some of the girls’ faces were flushed. I thought that was ...
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My thinking about marrige and wedding

 Courtship and engagement are so wonderful in a relationship because they prove that you and your partner are ready to commit to each other and step into marriage. I haven’t gone to the engagement part yet, but I saw the Facebook pictures that my friends posted who are engaged. I can tell that must be their best moments in their lives since they got engaged from their happy faces. I am looking forward to a romantic propose but not a big wedding. Maybe some of you who read this blog must think I am a weirdo. Who wouldn’t want a big wedding, especially girls since that is the biggest moment in their life? For me, I think marriage is two people things, so I would rather have a small party with a bunch of my closest friends than inviting the strangers that I don’t know (they might be the acquaintances of my parents, but I don’t know them.) I want the best moment could just belong to us than witnessed by the people that who have never got into my life. It is such a strange thing to me. ...
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