My thinking about marrige and wedding

 Courtship and engagement are so wonderful in a relationship because they prove that you and your partner are ready to commit to each other and step into marriage. I haven’t gone to the engagement part yet, but I saw the Facebook pictures that my friends posted who are engaged. I can tell that must be their best moments in their lives since they got engaged from their happy faces. I am looking forward to a romantic propose but not a big wedding. Maybe some of you who read this blog must think I am a weirdo. Who wouldn’t want a big wedding, especially girls since that is the biggest moment in their life? For me, I think marriage is two people things, so I would rather have a small party with a bunch of my closest friends than inviting the strangers that I don’t know (they might be the acquaintances of my parents, but I don’t know them.) I want the best moment could just belong to us than witnessed by the people that who have never got into my life. It is such a strange thing to me. I said that because I used to attend my cousin’s wedding when I was a little girl. I heard that my cousin got up at 4 am to get her dress and make up done, then waiting for her husband, the bridegroom to pick her up. During the ceremony, they went to toast to the guests on each table, even the guests that they were not familiar with, and they didn’t even have time to eat something until the toast was done, and the bridegroom was so drunk since he took care of most of the toast thing. I didn’t say that having toast is not a good thing, because the newly wed couples could receive the blessings from the people who came to the banquet, and it would also make their parents happy because they think wedding is one of the biggest moments in their life. As for me, I prefer having a trip and getting married instead of having a big ceremony, and I know this sounds ridiculous and unbelievable. I personally think the best moment doesn’t contain in the ceremony, it contains and lasts in me and my husband’s hearts. We will remember this moment forever since this is our moment once in a lifetime despite no other people get involved. Another interesting phenomenon is younger people might consider delaying their marriage time since they are not finically stable that time, and I totally agree with that. I am not the person who will sacrifice the future just for the current moment happiness, I would rather do what I need to do first, as we call this “delayed gratification” and I personally think it is necessary. Some people might think we can totally turn to our parent’s help if we have the financial jam this moment, which is true. However, I don’t want to sacrifice my parent’s future needs just for my current needs, which it will bring a big obligation. I would like to get everything prepared before stepping into something, even including my marriage. On financial part, I am very careful and cautious, because I don’t want this to be a problem between me and my husband in the future, which unfortunately it is a big problem for a couple after months or years marriage. I think getting married is the happiest moment to a couple and to their families, but I don’t think there is something wrong to well prepared before planning it. Also many people nowadays think cohabiting is enough and it could be a substitute of the marriage, however, I don’t think that way. Marriage means responsibility, love to a family and the commitment to the person you will spend the rest of your life with. Marriage is holy, and the pleasure and happiness is way above the cohabiting.