My opinion about stay home moms.

 The thing I would like to talk about in this blog might be a little bit controversial, but it is also very interesting. No one can deny a mom’s role in this world, not just in their own families, but also to the society as well. From the human civilization started, mom always plays a role in keeping the harmony in the family, taking care of the kids while their husbands are working outside, cleaning the house, etc. In the modern society, it seems that mom’s responsibility added one more, which is going out to work and add another income for the whole family. The debate about if a woman should be a stay home mom when she gets married and has kids always exists, and it seems like both sides can’t convince each other. In LDS culture, people tend to let the women being stay home moms and the men go to work and take the financial responsibility of the whole family because it is important to have mom’s accompany during the whole period of a child’s growth. However, it does not mean it is okay for a woman not going to the school. I used to talk about this with one of my male friends, and he said that it is okay to let his wife stay at home to raise the kids, but she must have a bachelor’s degree, that is the minimum requirement. The reason is that for one thing, similar education backgrounds would be easier to communicate as partners. On the other hand, he thinks it is also very important for their kid’s education if mom has a higher diploma, which I completely agree. If it is a good thing to be a stay home mom it depends on how people think about stay home moms, and also I believe that financial situation also plays an important role on that. Just think about this, if husband only earns limited amount of money monthly, and his wife is a stay home mom, and they have 4 kids need to raise, I assume their living costs would be a little bit high, so the pressure left on husband would be also high in some extend. Take China as an example, around 50^th basically every woman is a stay home mom, only a few women also went out to work, the reason is because during that time everything is arranged by the government, they don’t need to pay their housing, insurance, and they can even get the food for free because all of them were given by the government, men’s salary is completely enough to support the whole family even if their wives don’t need to work. However, the situation has been changed dramatically since 90^th, the college students need to find the jobs by themselves, and there is no more free housing and food again, plus the living expenses also grow up rapidly year by year. Under this circumstance, it would be a little bit hard for a family to survive if only husbands go to work but women become stay home moms. Most of the cases, both men and women need to work so they can support the family finically, especially when they have kids. My biological parents were like this, even if I am the only child in my family, they both needed to work so they can have savings for my schools, food and other expenses. Nowadays if women don’t have a job, men will not consider dating them because they will think that is a burden in the future. I don’t agree with the opinion that stay home moms don’t create any social values, I think it is a great job for women to raise their kids, devoting and sacrificing all of her personal time to the family and kids, I show great respect to those moms who made big sacrifices.