Why commmunicate, especially effective communicate matters?

 As human beings, we all need communication, it could be verbal and non-verbal (body language). The communication is so important to us because it is not just a media that we know each other in the world, but also a very important way to bond the relationship with people. The communication could be interpreted into different ways based on the context and the emotion you provided that time. Also it is also linked to the personality. Some people who are extrovert tend to be more talkative and the ones who are introvert are less likely to talk a lot, especially in front of the public or the people they don’t know. Communication is crucial between married couple, between friends, even to the strangers. I think we can tell if a person’s emotion based on the information he/she sent us, for instance, we know that people must be happy when we see them laughing or smiling. Or we can tell that person is sad if we see him/her cry. Normally we tend to show our happy emotions to the others and put our anger into our hearts. I, however, don’t think that is the right thing to do. God created our bodies, gave us minds, and he also granted our rights and powers to show all the feelings we want to show, including anger. Showing anger is a good way to release yourself in some extend when you feel really bad about something. The worst thing is not because you are mad at someone, it is you don’t even show up anything to that person even you are angry with them, thus they will never know that you are angry, and your relationship will never be improved or changed. Take me as an example, when I feel angry, I usually don’t show my angry face or yell at them, but I need them to know that I am angry, so I just slam the door and make a noise to let them know that I am very angry that time. Then one of my friends told me that was not a good way to show my dissatisfaction, people will just think I am rude because it is not polite to slam the door in front of others, at least it won’t be am effective way to solve the problem. I totally agreed what she said after and I took her advice that to say something, to let people know that I am angry when I am angry. The best way to preserve and improve the relationship between couples is to communicate. Just in last week, me and my friend, a friend that I have crush on for a while, we had an open-heart conversation, we both confessed our feelings to each other, and I finally got a chance to tell him everything that hide in my heart for so long. I felt so good and relaxed after that conversation because we know each other more throughout that communication, and our relationship definitely got improved because of that. I can also choose to say nothing and keep that secret forever in my heart, but I decided to say it out because I don’t want to leave any regrets before I graduate, and I felt so lucky that I made a right decision that time. Sometimes communication would help us to solve the problem, or sometimes it would make the situation worse, it totally depends on how you communicate. We all need to choose a smart way when we communicate with each other, so it is very important to understand their religious background, family background and even personal characteristics before we initiate a communication, and as for me, there is a long way to go.