Don't lose hope on marriage

 Divorce is kind of a hard topic to talk about. However, the truth is, based on the data, 70% of the married couples will feel regret about divorced with their spouses. When they got married, it seems that their promises could go forever. But, with time goes by, the original passion and love faded away, the deficiencies of their personalities began showing up, the dissatisfaction accumulated day by day, finally, it breaks out at some point, the trigger might be just small little thing that we wouldn’t even care about. The reason caused divorce could be plenty, it might be out of the domestic violence, abuse, cheating on their spouses, or it could also because of the financial burden, and the child’s education. In my opinion, a lot of divorces could be avoided or prevented, because they did that out of passion, the passion of anger. When they calm down and started realizing that they still love each other they will regret about their rash actions, and it is really hard to fix once one party got remarried again. The divorce out of the deficiency of personality is very common, it happens due to lack of deep understanding of each other, some couples, not 100% the case, they married after met each other for 3 months or even shorter, their marriage usually won’t last very long because they haven’t spent enough time with each other so they haven’t built up a solid feeling foundation and understanding towards each other. Again, this does not apply to all of the married couples who met each other just for 3 months. I know several couples whose marriages lasts decades and they are still together despite they knew each other in a very short time and decide to get married. And I am not saying that 2 people who met each other for a long time their marriages will last forever. Just take my cousin as an example, she met her ex-husband when they were both in the college, they were dating the whole college period and they got married after they graduated, as for me, if this is not true love I don’t know what is. However, they signed the divorce paper after they got married for 8 months. And the more pathetic part is my cousin got pregnant that time, and she went to the hospital to do the abortion despite everyone was trying to persuade her to keep this marriage for the child’s sake. She just said that she already made up her mind and she can’t keep this child because she doesn’t want her baby to be born without father. I felt sorry for her and I don’t know exactly what the real reason made this divorce happen, but I think time can’t guarantee that the person you are spending with is the right one. I am not superstitious, but I do believe fate sometimes, it is not easy to meet the right person, sometimes you have to meet a lot of the wrong ones and get hurt before the right person shows up. We can’t lose hope to the true love, but it needs time and faith to wait for the right person in your life. I still stay single, and I got several chances to get married but I declined because I don’t want the same tragedies that happened to my biological parents and my cousin happen to me again. I need to be good enough to match the person who is also good enough that posses good heart, faith and common goals. I am confident that my right person will show up sooner or later, I am not giving up, I need to keep walking on my path, and I will meet him on my way to success.