Why culture paradigam influence family relations and what can we do about culture validation?

 Well, here is an interesting thing, maybe some of you will put a consideration that if cultural paradigms and family structures will influence the family and relations. My answer is YES. In my culture, dating and marriage is more like the things between 2 families rather than 2 people. It is more like a family reunion than 2 people’s reunion, I know it might sound unbelievable to many of you here who is reading my blog now, but it does exist. People also have a hot debate that whether father or mother could be optional in a family. The kids who were raised by an intact family, which means both father and mother around would be happier and less likely to have some mental disorders compared to the kids were not raised by such families like that. I heard a heartbreaking story was about a kid who was raised by a nanny for so many years with his parents were completely absent from his grow-up killed himself because his parents sent his nanny away, which destroyed his life completely. I am sure that would be not the only case happened in the world, there was something like that before, and there would be something like that again in the future somewhere. A lot of parents think it is enough to give their kids enough money so they will be able to do anything themselves. However, a love from parents is so crucial in a child’s development, a kid would be happier if his/her parents were involved in his entire grow up period even if those parents are not that rich compared to a kid who was born in a rich family, but his/her parents were totally absent from his/her grow up period. Another thing interests me was if all cultures should be equally valid. Based on my understanding, the term valid here means logic or acceptable, as for me, it is very complicated to answer because it depends on the situations. However, I do agree that there are several cultures are unacceptable even horrible to most of the humans in the world, but they do exist somewhere in the world, and the most important thing we need to do is to respect the other’s cultures even though it is very hard for you to understand. Maybe it is not a good example to discuss here since it is very controversial, but I will still bring it up here. We all know that dogs are the best friend of us human beings, and maybe no one could imagine that some people in some countries still eat dogs, but it does exist, such as China and South Korea. The dogs they eat are not the pet dogs, but are some special types of the dogs, those types of dogs were raised for eating. I know it still sounds terrible despite the local government claim that they do not eat pet dogs, and they only eat dogs for some special holidays since that is a tradition has been going on thousands of years. A lot of Chinese people, even the local people who come from the places eating dogs as tradition, they begin to boycott this tradition including setting up the shelters for those dogs are ready to be butchered, putting pressures towards to the local government to cancel this tradition, they even make posts all over the Chinese social media to let the Chinese people who live in other areas to join them to protect those dogs together, and it works very well. More and more people realize not all cultures and traditions should be preserved forever, the good ones should be protected and persevered forever of course, but we also need to make some changes even abolish the bad ones if that’s necessary as well. 

The world is not perfect yet, and we don’t know when it will be. But we could do our best to make it better, culture alteration would be a good start if there are some bad ones, or they don’t fit for this modern world. I am sure that eventually all cultures would be equally valid because people reach an agreement that what are the good things and bad things despite it has a long way to go.